Vulnerability of Hospitality

I’m a hopeless romantic when it comes to reminiscing about the past. These particular emotions have been stirred up as I caught up with friends from one of the happiest periods of my life. The beauty of these memories are not because they were a defining moment, or a time that holds me in an extremely positive light. More so, it’s the realness and genuity of these moments. Sure, this can be achieved from family and intimate relationships, but it’s rare to get this from a group of people that have no obligations towards you. For anyone that’s done the late nights/sunrise finishes, I’m sure you can relate to this in one way or another. In any case, let’s get a little deep.


For me, my hospitality years are my most treasured period of time because of the sincerity which occurred. This doesn’t mean that it was all filled with fluffy clouds and hand holding moments. On the contrary, there were probably just as many negative moments as there were positive ones. However, the one thing that these moments have that very few things will ever compare to, is the vulnerability shown by those around you. It is this aspect which is why I look so fondly back on these times.


When it’s 3am and you’re sitting on a couch surrounded by your co-workers, completely buggered from a night filled with hard work, long hours and alcohol fuelled d*ckheads, you are as close to genuine as you’ll ever be. There’s no hiding who you are or pretending to be someone you’re not. Your true personality, beliefs and quirks are all exposed and out there for everyone to see.


Now, it would be a lie if I said I treasure every single person I worked with. However, it’s not a matter of good and bad or right and wrong. It’s all about being who you really are. As such, the pure emotion that was on display is the reason I would never begrudge them for whatever life choices they make simply because they weren’t hiding who they were. As for those that I do like, it’s never been clearer whether I’d want to stay friends.


The further I move away from this time in my life, it has become more and more apparent that you just don’t get these types of connections in a day job, probably because the level on emotion on display is always kept to a minimum. We live in a quantitative society where everything is measured, including our emotions. As such, it’s so easy to backstab or upstage a colleague because the level of emotion on display is so superficial. Agendas are easy to push and true motives are easy to mask. Once again, I’m not sure I’d begrudge those who ‘play the game,’ but it is disheartening, when all you want is to connect.


Good and bad times will come, go and easily be forgotten. However, it’s the emotions which you will never forget. Frustration and confidence are just as memorable because they form the basis for that feeling of certainty. Life is chaotic and it’s during the chaotic moments where we need to be sure. That’s probably why hospitality life just made sense to me because during this time period, I was sure. If hospitality was something you could actually make a career out of (of course there are exceptions), I’d probably be back there in a heart beat. In the mean time, I’ll be back in reality trying to make sense of what’s in front of me.



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